According to research, people that bully do it because they have 'problems' they are too scared to own up to. Bullies are generally people that secretly hate themselves and take that anger out on others in the hope they feel better about themselves. Many are superficial people too! Just look at the movie 'Mean Girls'. Also look at the mean people in some of the latest kids flicks likes Camp Rock, High School Musical, 17, and many more! The world is either turning into something really bad or the bulling reign is coming to a close - I don't know! But what I do know is - I want to be involved in doing something about this horrible subject of bullying because it makes me feel unhappy for myself and for others. I am the kind of person that cares about other people and I cannot help that. Neither do I want to stop caring about other people. I will not apologise for refusing to just tolerate bullying and try to get along with the bullies. I have tried every method I know to get along with nasty people but it is a mistake for me to keep trying that. When you compromise your principles for evil you start to become someone you are not. I am not evil and I AM NOT A BULLY. Neither am I a hero but I am just a regular kid that wants the fair chance to be myself. 

If you bully then you need help. I did not set up this site with the idea of exposing you. If I did then I would be saying your name. I set it up in the hope you would be smart enough to see that you are being nasty and that BULLYING is wrong. I also wanted to air my emotions about being bullied. I wanted to let others being bullied understand that I am a victim of bullying and not ashamed to admit it. I read the newspapers and watch the news. Kids like me kill themselves because of bullies. A waste of a life but I understand their pain. I hope that by encouraging people being bullied to talk about their experiences and make good with it will reduce the number of kids turning to suicide. I hate to think of people wasting their lives through suicide. I am not the only kid that reads and wants a better life for myself you know. Some of those kids that ended up killing themselves wanted a better life for themselves too. It was bullies that would not let them and the disturbance they felt inside them that drove them to hurt themselves. No bully is going to drive me to hurt myself. I draw strength from those that have taken that way out and I am happy to be in a position where I can learn from their experience. I will not give in - I will stand up and stand against bulling wherever it occurs - because I am a child of God. I believe in my Christian faith and in the values my family has taught me. I am in this world to make a difference not to curl up in a corner and cry. So if you have a problem with me then don't bully or try to bully me. Speak to me directly - I am a fair person.

Please do not write lies on this website and expect me to answer to them and don't disguise who you are (those seeking to challenge me) either because it is a cowards way out. If you want questions answered then write it on my Discussion Page and not on the Guestbook - because you know I am not going to respond to you. Also please do not mention names either - you can make your point without mentioning names. Finally, again - I remind you that your ip details are logged and action can be taken against you should this become necessary. 

Finally, a big shout out to all of my supporters - you make me proud. I have placed just a few of my podcasts in the Fun Stuff section on this website. Laters, 

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 By Lindsay

People being bullied should not lose heart cos most previously bullied are now Hollywood Stars!

Look at Christina Aguilera, Brandy and others in tow - the latest star that was bullied is Demi Lovato.

WHAT HAPPENS TO OR HAS HAPPENED TO ME AT SCHOOL

From the moment I arrived at the school I have been approached by Playa Haters - people that get satisfaction from making others look bad. They roam the school as if they own it. Confident in themselves but what lies behind their confidence is always questionable. I mean, who are these people really? What have they achieved? What makes them feel so bold that they can go up to someone they see minding their own business and start hating on them? There are a group of Playa Haters that love to irritate me.

It might help if I define Playa Hater for you:

Playa Hater or Playa Hating is an urban definition for bullying that focuses on who the bully is rather than the victim. A Playa Hater is someone who picks on or bullies another person for what may seem like no apparent reason, however, underlying reasons may stem from the Playa Hater seeing something in the victim that has caused them to feel envious. The Playa Hater is generally someone who feels inadequate about themselves and yearns to be popular, noticed and/or accepted. They may even sustain their popularity by bullying others and those within their network of friends and/or colleagues. The Victim is generally targeted because they have something or possess a quality that the Playa Hater desires. Playa Haters are also known to target vulnerable people as their victims - often those they perceive cannot or will not fight back. The Playa Hater is... in a nutshell...a bully. Source: Urban Dictionary

THE BULLYING: What these Play Haters do to me.

I have been called: Gay. I am not homeosexual but even if I was ...it is not their business and they have no right to judge me.

On my way to the PE changing room they say 'the last one to get to the changing room wants to have sex with me' - only much nastier words are used.  

They deliberately misinterpret what I say and try to make me look like an idiot. They tell me everyone hates me.

They make filthy phone calls to me. One Playa Hater threatened to stab me - also describing what he would do with my body.

I have been shoved from behind and hit over the head.

They hit me (from behind) and run or gather around me in a gang to stop me from seeing who is doing the hitting. They shove each other into me.

I made a Police complaint on one of the incidents - I needed hospital treatment.

They criticise everything I do. My work, my projects - the things I am involved in. They have even damaged my property.

They open my school bag without permission. They run off with my stuff encouraging me to chase after them. 

They say that all the teachers kiss my butt (only this is put politely, the words they actually use are really quite disgusting.)

A culture of Bullying in schools

Bullying in schools is all over the Internet and in Western culture it seems to be the norm. That doesn't make it right. There are people like me in schools all over the world - people who are there to learn - not to be lost in the culture. I don't think it is acceptable that bullying is accepted. It seems to me that excuses are made for it, comments like: rough and tumble are all part and parcel of being in school or laugh it off. The other week I had learning support assistants at my school trying to give me tips on how to respond to the bullies in an acceptable manner - such as laughing with them and laughing off their abuse to try and make friends with them. For me, these comments are ignorant - clearly these learning support assistants struggle to understand what bullying is and that it is wrong not to condemn it. With adults like this in the school, I for one do not feel that I am in safe hands.

Friday 5th June 2009: The other day, a friend of my younger brother had his ball taken (by some of the older boys) without his permission, and I stepped in to ask some of these boys for his ball back and as a result I got abuse thrown at me including a racist comment - telling me to go back to my own country. This is my country and the person that said it is a racist - whether he grows up and remains a racist will depend on whether the adults that know about his behaviour do anything to stop him. 

What do my parents say?

They encourage me to stay focused and not to be emotionally beaten by bullies. They fund my website and other activities that I do to help me further myself seeing as the normal education route is affecting my ability to learn properly.  My parents encourage me to talk about my problems and this helps me cope with the stress that I feel at the fact my educational experience has been such a nightmare. My parents have reported these incidents to the Police and I have written to the Welsh Assembly Government to address this issue about bullying in the education system. The minister that dealt with my issues said that she was appalled, and even more appalled that despite my parents going to the school to complain - the bullying still continues. She suggested two people that should help me including a support worker that works for the Local Authority. Well, I have already experienced how useless the Local Authority is so the Local Authority worker kindly put me in touch with the local Race Equality organisation. I am documenting everything that happens so that people get to see what is going on with the education system and the society we live in.

What does the school say?

Teachers do their best to tackle each episode but the bullies basically produce more episodes. If I told my teachers every episode - life would be worse for me because it just feeds into the problem of the bullies/haters believing I always run to the teachers.

What I believe

I am annoyed that the teachers cannot stop the bullies. While I do not blame the teachers I do think that they could do more to stop it. For example, they know how rough the school is but that is only an issue if people like me make an issue of it. Basically - the way I see it, the message to me is: this school is not for gentlemen - it is for thugs. If the school is not for me then why am I there? Funny but the bullies have even asked me that question. It seems that the bullies feel at home there and I guess I have stepped on their turf. It looks like they also know that there is no one to stop them and that is why they do what they do. They know they will get away with it.

Some of my teachers are supportive and you can really see that they are just as frustrated with the situation but they can only do so much. I believe the main head teacher needs to clean up the school. He needs to make a stand to stop bullying today. With respect, all I have heard from him so far is talk. He has even had me in his office questioning me about what I meant in my petition to the Welsh Assembly Government - that I have been bullied on a consistent basis. He even asked me to stop this "damn" website. Though to be fair to him, he did explain that he used the words "damn" because he does not really understand computers. However, his actions so far have not convinced me that he knows what bullying is or that he understands the damage his failure to act is doing to the school or worse....to me. I was bullied a so many times before I set up this website and it continued afterwards. I am not aware that the main head teacher has had any of the bullies in his office grilling them the way he chose to grill me because I chose to send a petition to the government. And an ignorant Learning Support Assistant told me that it was extreme that I sent a leter to the Minister because it is not going to help me get any friends. Can anyone be any more ignorant? How many times? I am not there to make friends - I am there to learn. 

Leaving the school is not an option for me. Look at all the bullying sites - bullying is everywhere - it is a society problem. Whose to say that I won't move to another school and encounter haters there too! I am not going to run away. I am not going to become a thug and use my fists to defend myself to be accepted in my school. I am also not prepared to just crawl into a corner and be a victim. Seeing as bullies are content to make my life at school a living hell, I am standing my ground. My future is not going to be ruined because I was bullied at school but seeing as it does not look like bullying is going to stop - I guess (and it is unfortunate) that my entire childhood experience will just have to be about how I spent it tackling bullying.

Read Part One of My Story first.

After my Local Education Authority and School failed me - I lost my chance of a Welsh language education. I had been fluent in Welsh but today I struggle with the language. I was also behind on certain subjects. I am currently behind in certain areas and advanced in others. To cut a long story short, I went to live in London and returned to Wales after two years. Basically, what had happened to me in Wales had such a major impact on my family and my education that I needed the break. I was glad I went to London but was relieved to be back home in Wales. However, my current secondary school is rough. There are so many bullies all grouped together in one place. It is shameful.

Since experiencing bullying I have had the opportunity to learn about the topic to try to understand why it happens and what makes people bully. So many sites and victims of bullying are saying the same thing. I believe there is a culture of bullying in the classroom. It needs to stop but how do we stop it. This site is my way of dealing with the issue of being bullied. I am a victim of bullying and not afraid to say it. Victims of bullying are not the bad ones. They are not the ones to laugh at or look down upon. They are the ones that are suffering an injustice and if you see or know of someone that is being bullied and you do nothing to help them - what does that say about you?

If you do not know how to help someone that is being bullied then the least you can do is stand against it by getting involved in causes that raise awareness of it. The guest book here is set up in a way that encourages people to disclose who they are or remain anonymous. So you can be whoever you want to be to contribute on my site. Just say what you think or feel. If you have a story that you want to share I can put it in the blog - just send it to me via the Feedback page. Please let me know whether you want me to use your real name or whether you want to remain anonymous.

Anyway, back to my story - part two

Basically, it hasn't ended - the bullying continues - hence this site. Every day I am in school I have an experience and before I tell you what happens I will tell you what bullying is:

Bullying can happen to anyone at any age. Being bullied at school, home or online might involve someone pushing you, hitting you, teasing you, talking about you or calling you names. No one has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad, and if you are being bullied you don't have to put up with it, you can talk to someone about it. Source: https://www.childline.org.uk/Info/Pages/Bullying.aspx

READ My Story: Part Two Continued

My new blog has been launched today but it will not be in journal format but more of an update so that you understand what bullying is and current issues. Stay focused on it and I will try to keep you informed. You can read new posts on this blog via the RSS feed.

MY STORY

I am a victim of bullying

I have been a victim of bullying and that is why I set up this website. I figured that I could crumble under the stress and strain of the bullying or I could talk about my experiences. I also want to raise awareness of bullying and its impact on those being bullied. Well, here goes...

Since I was around 9 years old - I have been bullied. I guess I have one of those faces or perhaps it is in the way I carry myself. Who knows? Actually, I don't really care why I am being bullied. I just know that it is wrong and no one has that right to bully me.

It started in my local Welsh language school, Ysgol Gymraeg Casnewydd. I spoke Welsh fluently and loved the Welsh language. I loved school and had lots of friends. One day this kid in a school year below me started to call me names and hit me. Sometimes I wanted to fight back but I have a lot of self control. My parents teach me not to fight and to communicate using my mouth. They always told me that self-defence can be used on the right occasion and I didn't need my parents to tell me that I should not be hitting someone younger than me. Anyway, this kid kept hitting me. I told my parents and they went to the school and met with the head teacher. The head teacher made so many excuses for this kid. She said he was a general nuisance and upset the other kids too - not just me. She told me not to worry about him but she did not try to stop his behaviour. She just wanted me to understand about him. I remember, my parents were not happy with the head teachers response and they told the head teacher that they wanted to meet with the parents. The head teacher struggled to arrange this meeting. She kept saying she couldn't get hold of the kid's mother. My parents said that the head teacher did not take the matter seriously. My parents tried their best to be patient with the head teacher and the bullying but the head teacher's excuses went on. We soon reached the summer holiday and nothing had been resolved. I was worried about the kid throughout the holiday. I don't know how it happened but I began to get fearful of the bully. I kept telling myself he was younger than me, but it did nothing cos I still felt scared. It didn't help that my younger brother was due to start at the school after the summer holiday. Anyway, after the summer holiday the kid hit both me and my brother and that was it. My mother and father called the school and the school secretary said that the incident happened on the school bus and our safety could not be guaranteed on the bus.

My parents were very angry that the bullying had become so out of hand and that this bully could not be controlled by the school. So my parents called Gwent Police. The Police responded well. The Police Officer advised my parents that they should contact the Local Education Authority and not send us back to school until the matter had been resolved by the LEA. They also said that they wanted to speak to the school because I had also been racially abused while at the school. The Police Officer suggested that the bullying could also be motivated by race seeing that I am black and it did not appear the bully was targeting any other kids. The Police assigned us a Police Liason Officer who arranged to run diversity training at the school. The head teacher agreed but THEN the Police Liason Officer told my parents that: shockingly, the head teacher had telephoned her to say that she no longer wanted to go ahead with the diversity training.

My parents had contacted my Local Education Authority writing to the Head of Education and Inclusion, but after sending my parents an acknowledgement that the letter had been received, this Head of Education and Inclusion left me and my brother out of school for over 9 months while he investigated the matter. Not even the Schools Management department at the Welsh Assembly Government and the South East Wales Race Equality Council (SEWREC) could make this man act. My parents told him that being black boys - research shows that my brother and I are already at a disadvantage. The Head of Educational and Inclusion did not appear to care about my brother and I being out of school. I had lost my Welsh education and so did my brother - and sister, who was also due to start at the nursery but could not attend because of this matter.

Conclusion

My Local Education Authority and my head teacher failed me. The education system failed me.